3 Types of Edge, and How to Use Them to Attract Women

Edge is something of an esoteric subject. We all know when someone has it. We can see it and feel it when we’re in their presence. But how do you develop edge? That’s what I aim to explain in this article.

Edge, simply put, is something you reveal and then express. Everyone has edge within them. They only need to reveal it, then express it.

Have you ever met an MMA fighter who seems like the most normal of guys? There’s nothing intimidating about him visually, but if you see him train, spar, or fight, you know he’s a tough cookie.

While that’s cool and has some “hidden value” magic to it, it’s not going to help him socialize with those outside his circle, people who don’t know about his talents.

The purpose of edge is to purposefully affect those around you, both men and women. Your edge should intrigue(and maybe even frighten) the people you meet.

It’s meant to trigger those around you to think “There’s something more to this guy than meets the eye.” Edge is, as the name implies and denotes, a feeling of anticipation. Something is bubbling beneath the surface. What is it? It depends on the type of edge that man possesses.

A quick note before we continue: edge by itself is not enough to be socially and sexually successful. If you’re all edge and no substance and lack basic social skills, you will interest people at first and then repel them when they find out that’s all you have to offer.

Being able to hold a conversation is necessary, and knowing how to respond in a normal, socialy calibrated manner is a must. I’m not suggesting you become an “edge-lord”. I know guys like that, and while they are intriguing, they lose their luster once you realize they only have edge... and no point.

The Three Types of Edge

The three types of edge are: physical, emotional, and conceptual/spiritual. Each has its own benefits and drawbacks, depending on the audience you are addressing. Let’s start with physical edge.

#1: PHYSICAL EDGE

Imagine the MMA fighter I mentioned before. He is physically intimidating. He might not be tall or girthy, but he walks like an animal. There is something brutal to the way he walks, talks, looks at you, and maybe even the way he dresses.

This is the appeal behind the now-fading trend of guys wearing Affliction graphic T-shirts. Whether they truly were tough or not, wearing a glittery graphic T-shirt with the Affliction logo on it was an attempt by guys everywhere to communicate “I’m a tough guy – don’t mess with me.”

Physical edge comes down to the notion that “If worst comes to worst, I will fight you with the frenzy of a Nordic berserker.” Does it work? Sure. If you see a bald, ripped guy with eyes of fire walking around, nearly bursting out of an Affliction T-shirt, you will think twice about taking him on. Social criticisms aside, there is value to how you express yourself.

Hence, the second aspect of edge: expressing it.

Edge is worth developing, but unless you market it correctly, it won’t help you socially. If your response to this is “I don’t care, I want to have edge for my own sake,” then good for you, but that’s not what I’m discussing. My aim is to make you more socially and sexually successful, and you need to market your edge properly if you want the attention and respect that comes with it.

So, how does one express physical edge?

Muscles

Muscles themselves aren’t necessarily a testament to fighting potential (and might even hinder you in a fight, since large muscles quickly drain a lot of energy).

Words

Be concise and direct. Do not mince words unless you are being friendly and social. This demonstrates a pointedness that reflects an assassin in waiting

Clothes

I suggest either a slick, dapper look like John Wick or James Bond, or something culturally edgy – whatever is trending at the time.

Facial Expressions and Body Language

Stoic and aggressive facial expressions. If you haven’t heard, women dig dominant, tough guys. It may be an archaic, caveman mentality to some of you, but since we’re the dominant species of the planet, the only large, mammalian threat that humanity faces (that isn’t viral or bacterial) is... other humans.

In most interpersonal conflicts, you won’t be facing knives or advanced weaponry. The greatest weapons you have are your mouth and body to fend off competition, both sexually and socially. Words and body language are your best tools. The latter is useful because it preempts a physical conflict.

Your competition should think twice before messing with you physically, and being aggressive or stoic will throw off most men. However, you will occasionally run into guys who are attracted to fighting guys they are intimidated by, to impress a female in the vicinity – or simple small-man syndrome.

You achieve strong, defensive facial expressions and body language by being slow yet decisive with your movements, hand gestures, and eye contact. I’m not advocating violence in any way. In fact, I’m eschewing violence, unless it is absolutely necessary. I am talking about winning without having to fight.

Your eye contact should be piercing. Your words and movements should be determined. You are constantly aware of yourself and what you’re doing, and you know how to point those actions in any direction you see fit.

On the whole, for physical edge to be authentic, you must develop it. This is done behind the curtain. Train in a practical martial art and become proficient enough that you walk with confidence.

Having the experience of being in an actual fight has value here, too, although I’m not advocating you get into a street brawl for the sake of experience. If you don’t have real fight experience to draw upon, learn how to express your physical edge through your words so that physical confrontation is unnecessary.

Most martial disciplines teach verbals along with the physical stuff, so hit up your local dojo. This is the ultimate dominance – avoiding violence by brokering peace with your aggressor. Expression trumps substance in the social sphere, but actual physical edge will lead to authentic expression.

#2: EMOTIONAL EDGE

Emotional edge is most aptly developed and expressed via passion. There should be passion in the way you talk about the things you love. Your movements should show decisive love of that which you pursue. Technically, this is expressed via intonation, volume, and cadence in your speech.

Be excited about what you do. If you don’t love what you do or talk about, you shouldn’t be doing it or talking about it. Make your life one that directs you towards your love. I love writing. Writing this fills me with pleasure. Fantasies fill me as I write this, and I often find myself intoxicated with writing and the dreams it inspires, so much so that I must take a break. I see anything else as a waste of time.

Of course, one must do their duty, whatever that might be, and discipline is important, but duty and discipline for that which one does not love doesn’t seem real to me. Even the Buddha advised that those not completely drawn to the monastic life shouldn’t embark on the path of Nibbana as a monk.

Find what you love, and do that for a living if you can. We live in an age where this is very much possible. Love playing video games? Become a professional in that game. Esports is a growing market with a very rich future. Love fighting? Join an MMA gym and go professional.

Love writing? Write every day about what you love, and learn the craft. Love building businesses rather than running them? Become an entrepreneur. Find something you love and do it.

People who do what they do for money alone don’t make it far.

Love your friends without boundaries. Show them your gratitude with time, energy, and gifts. Praise them, lift them up, and encourage them to unleash their inner godhood.

With women, ravish them. Tell them they are beautiful . Expect nothing in return. Kiss them with fury. In bed, bang them like it’s your last night on earth. Do this properly, and you’ll never be a loser – you’ll be a man who isn’t afraid to express himself.

Will you make mistakes with emotional edge? Of course – that’s why it’s called edge. You’re sitting on the precipice of something. When it all falls into place and you’re revealed for who you are, you could be annoying and pathetic, or you could be dopetastic and awesomely powerful! That’s why there are two parts to edge: development and expression.

Develop powerful, emotional attitudes towards your life and everything within it. We live in an infinite sandbox, boys. Have fun with it. Play with it. Life is clay

#3: CONCEPTUAL/SPIRITUAL EDGE

I combine these two because it’s hard to separate them.

On one hand, you have the philosopher. He is accurate with his thinking, always penetrating the clouds with his logic beams, seeing what lies beyond fancy words and flighty ideals. His mind is his edge. He cuts through obfuscation like a samurai cuts through soft flesh.

Being around him is sometimes dangerous and exhausting because he holds no attachment to that which makes no sense and can’t be articulated clearly.

Then you have the mystic. He is quiet and speaks in riddles, but his thinking is clear... to him, at least. His metaphors and expressions have a purpose, even if you can’t see them. It’s not that he’s being difficult – it’s that it’s difficult to express that which is inexpressible.

While the philosopher cuts straight with a paddle, little by little, the mystic parts the sea and sees the end, while you’re standing there looking at the monstrous mountains of water. His finger points to the moon – and you’re busy looking at the finger.

One of my favorite contemporary examples of this is Rust Cohele from the TV show True Detective. He is constantly on edge because he is fighting demons and angels that you can’t see because you don’t even know they exist. Alan Watts, Buddha, Jesus, and Nagarjuna also come to mind.

Some are clearer than others, depending on their ability to express, but what they all have in common is that you can’t ignore them. Even if you hate what they say or despise their character, they cannot be ignored. You hang on their every word, whether it’s to retaliate or admire.

They are awful – that is, “full of awe”.

So, how does one develop conceptual or spiritual edge?

You can read, or you can examine your thoughts. Pay attention to the swirls in your mind. The thoughts that keep you up at night. Those are your bridges to an edge. Each edge brings a fall to another edge.

You might be reading my words and thinking I’m obtuse. That’s not my intention, but I find it hard to express myself in any way other than metaphorically. What cannot be denied is the rhetorical power of such expressions.

This post could get zero likes – who cares? I’m expressing myself with passion and love, and there is something that underlines it that you cannot take away from me. Isn’t that what we all aim to do? To act, speak, and move with such impunity that even if it takes hundreds of years for our words to be appreciated, it doesn’t matter.

Mystics and (true) intellectuals speak like this. This is not edge-lord philosophy. This is not sophomoric expressions from a guy who read some random book on mysticism and thinks himself synchronized with the fire.He is the fire incarnate. It burns regardless of whether you watch or acknowledge it.

Expressing this fire is another story. Learn rhetoric. Learn how to express yourself. But first, you must develop your edge, or you’ll only ever be seen as a snake-oil salesman.

CLOSING THOUGHTS

Sure, the aim of this post is to gain attraction, from men and women alike. What matters in the context of sexual and social success is your results. I know false prophets of wisdom who do well with women. I do not despise their method; they achieve what they seek to achieve. That alone is to be admired.

Of course, there are consequences to one’s facades that reach far beyond one night with a woman who became enraptured with his words – but that’s another subject.

Edge is something to be found through the body and the mind. That edge can be one of violent potential – physically, emotionally, and conceptually.

Your goal with edge is to disrupt the normal buzz of everyday life. Disrupt the norm but flow within it enough to be accessible or, at the very least, persuasive. Then you will achieve attraction.